I Am a Dolphin

Growing up, I loved dolphins. I loved the way they moved through the water, I loved the way their faces looked like they were always smiling and always happy. I loved going on my uncle’s boat in the oceans of Maine and seeing their backs touch the surface so they could get some air. Dolphins were majestic to me, and so was the ocean. It felt free to be by the ocean, it felt like there was nothing to worry about except for making it in before dark.

I’ve always loved the water. My Nana taught me to swim and she taught me how to float. On those hot summer days in Maine, you could find the whole family “out to camp” with sandwich meat and some bread sitting in the cooler on the picnic table. Most Saturdays in the summer, Nana would bring her strawberry pretzel salad, Aunt Cindy brought the fudge, and there was always plenty of delicious salads and bags of chips hanging around for everyone to eat. Some of my camp friends and I would ride our bikes from the top of the hill into the water (even though Grampie didn’t like that because it rusted the chain and ruined the brakes). Our camp has an outhouse and there’s plenty of mosquitoes, but the smores and hot dogs we cooked over the fire always tasted delicious. Fourth of July has always been the best day of the year because that means everyone is out and the music boat is going to be playing around the banks of Pushaw.

Every night in the summer it seemed like I looked forward to going to sleep. I smelled like citronella and the top of my cheeks were sore from the sun. Getting to sleep at camp was so much more fun than sleeping at home because I got to sleep on the loft. The ladder to the loft was right in between two couches, and I always loved jumping off the ladder into the cushions. Nana never liked using towels and still, to this day, says “You don’t need a towel, let the Sun dry you off”. And she has always told me, “You make sure you pack your bathing suit” even if I’m only going away for a day.

Nights at camp were especially memorable when Grampie would take me on his boat. Most nights before dinner, it was just me and him. He had bought a dingy little red boat from Mrs. Drinkwater, one of our camp neighbors. It had no motor at first, and no steering wheel. The seats were made with wooden planks, and there were empty jugs on the side in case any water came in. Grampie would take me out when the sun was starting to go down and the fish were jumping out of the water. He always told me this was one of the best times to go fishing, because the water looked like glass. It was calm, and it was a feeding time for the fish. Grampie would steer the boat from the back, and we would ‘coast’ our lines hoping for a bite. Those nights I cherish, because it was Grampie and I’s time together. He has always reminded me and said, “Cass, you will always be my first grandbaby and our first grand-daughter”. He has always reminded me that I am loved, I am cherished, and I am blessed.

Even if we weren’t at our camp, all of our family trips and camping weekends took us to places where there was water. Nana would have to force me out of the water, and sometimes I wouldn’t even get out to eat. Every time Nana told her friends about me she would say, “Cass is a fish, she loves to swim just like me”. Swimming, for our family, was something everyone enjoyed. Whether it be kayaking, jetskiing, riding in a boat, or just sitting on the banks, near the water was our favorite place to be.

Camp has always been a place of joy and a place of fun, and my friends loved it just as much. Nana and Grampie knew how much I loved camp, and trusted me to go there with my friends to swim and to hangout. Almost every night in the summer, my bestfriend Josh and I would night swim and take pictures on the beach or we would bring all of our friends there after Prom or Semi. Looking back, all of my favorite memories included camp. My favorite people could all agree on one thing, the fun that could be had when there was water.

Water, to me, was a means of escape. When I was in a lake or by the ocean, I was able to enjoy the best moments with my favorite people and I felt free. I felt like the dolphins I saw on my uncle’s boat, free and happy. And as I enter a new phase of my life, I have that same feeling on land. I am free, I am happy, and I am determined. The passions I have and the joy I feel keep a constant smile on my face, just like the faces of my favorite animal. I am a dolphin.

The Catalyst

January 29, 2018 |

It’s a crazy mix of emotions when I look back on the last year of my life. One year ago, I was in the darkest place imaginable. I have never experienced such a dull feeling in my life. I didn’t care about school, I didn’t care about my actions and how I was being perceived by my family, by my friends, and by the people who follow me on social media. I said what I wanted to and didn’t care who it affected. The truth is… I was lost. I was confused. I was hurt.

Losing someone who meant everything to me was a turning point in my life. It felt as though there no point in trying to succeed or trying to get somewhere in life if the person that I loved wasn’t going to be there to share it with me. I had rearranged my dreams to fit with his, and I only saw a future if he was in it. Looking back, I had no idea who I was. I changed myself to fit his image of perfection, even though I was never enough for him. So when he left and when it felt like it was me against the world, I retaliated. There were so many horrible decisions made and to be honest, I lost myself without even knowing who I truly was to begin with.

I let the World interfere with my thoughts, which ultimately turned into blurred actions. I was on my own to stay focused and to be responsible and in so many ways, I failed. While there were so many bad choices and decisions made in the last year, I don’t regret any of it. Every sleepless night and every tear taught me lessons that have made me grateful for all of the struggles I have overcome and grown from in so many ways.

There was no purpose. There was no light. There was no hope in my heart. The funny, charismatic, sometimes obnoxious Cass had disappeared. I slept twenty hours a day. I didn’t eat. I drank whenever I could. I didn’t go to class. I stopped going to therapy. I didn’t talk to my friends. I didn’t go home at all. I hid from the World because I didn’t want anyone to know the hurt that I felt. I didn’t want to worry my Mom or my grandparents because I always showed everyone that I could do anything and everything on my own. Ultimately, I was scared that my family would realize that I wasn’t as strong as I had always claimed to be. I didn’t want to accept that I had been defeated.

The World has a way of sucking you in. It is true, however, that what you give to the World will come back to you. So when I started emitting negativity and vulgarity and darkness into my surroundings, it is exactly what I got back in return. It felt like the hole that I was put into kept getting deeper and deeper, and I didn’t see any way out of the depression I was in. I was beginning to feel comfortable with mediocracy and doing the bare minimum. I was comfortable hanging out with people and building friendships with people I knew were not healthy for me or for the goals I had. I hung out in sketchy parts of town, I would skip work to be with someone who, looking back, didn’t build me up at all. I didn’t realize it then that the place that I was spending time in was not a safe place to be, nor was it a place where I belonged.

And that’s when everything took another turn… this time for the better. While getting into my accident was not a good experience, it had a huge impact on my life. Being so near to death forced me to change my way of thinking and forced me to begin finding solutions to make myself happy again. I realized that I don’t need anyone in my life to create my own happiness. I realized that I need to surround myself with those who want to see me succeed. I realized that it is okay to ask for help. I realized that it is my duty to thank God for bringing me out of a darkness that consumed every part of me. I could never say that I’m thankful for my near death experience, but I am thankful that it was my personal catalyst for change.

It’s been almost six months since the accident. In that time, I have had an opportunity to find myself in a new capacity. Sometimes I realize that I’m smiling for no reason. People feel so much more comfortable approaching me and sparking conversations. They recognize the changes that I have made. There is a joy that has been placed in my heart that has never been there before. I smile at blue skies, and I smile when it rains. I smile because there is still so much beauty and so much happiness in this world that also has so much evil and darkness. That happiness was given to me after the darkest season in my life… it was given to me to share with those around me.

I feel as though God has given me a new platform and a new reason for being. There have been so many new opportunities coming my way, and so many chances to succeed! I said before that what you give to the World will come right back to you. I had to change my way of thinking, I had to think of what my life had the potential to be. It wasn’t easy forcing myself to be happy, but I did it and now, I am the happiest and the most optimistic I have ever been. Sure life is going to continue to throw curve balls, but knowing that I have myself and I have an amazing God above pushes away any fears I have for the future.

 It’s important that people see me and hear my story. I come from hurt, I come from pain. I come from times of darkness. As much as those words are true, I also come from love. I come from a supportive family. I come from a place of independence and a place of promise. I come from a Provider and from a Savior who ceases to amaze me every single day.

For those reading who may feel like I did only six months ago… it gets better. Life has a way of cycling itself around and what you provide to those around you, as well as yourself, will multiply and have a direct effect on your life. So go for a walk. Listen to a different genre of music. Read a book. Force yourself to be uncomfortable because that is when you will begin to grow. When you find yourself looking for alternatives, explore those possibilities because that will be your own catalyst for change. I challenge you all; find a new passion and go on a new adventure of self-discovery. Be awkward. Be goofy. Be you.

– XO, Cass

Proverbs 31:25 – “She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”

What it Means to be a Mixed Woman in College

August 19, 2017 |

With all of the recent events in Charlottesville and events like Boston’s “Free Speech” Rally, new thoughts have entered my mind. Over the last couple of years, it has occurred to me that we are still living in a World where some still believe in the horrible ideologies associated with racial segregation and racism as a whole. The ideas are still prevalent in The United States, especially here in the North where diversity is still a relatively new topic of conversation. While all of these topics seem to be a rerun of history, it has come to my attention that there is a whole new generation of people across the globe whose genetics and characteristics are composed of more than one religion, one hair type, one ethnicity, and ultimately one race.

The truth is, I am one of those people. I am not one single race, I am an accumulation of so much more that created who I am and what I am made up of. I have curly hair that usually looks like a bird’s nest. I have freckles that don’t hide the Irish in me. I have a complexion that does not define me as one single race. When I think of the beauty associated with being a mixed woman, I am amazed. But what do these racial tensions and political agendas mean to me? What does it mean to be a college student who is both a female and happens to be biracial? Well, it means a lot more than some may think.

Prior to the Civil Rights Movement and even decades after, interracial relationships were frowned upon to the extreme. Along with this, women were beginning to gain momentum in fighting for their rights. Women were just beginning to find opportunities to get an education, and the 1950’s ‘house wife’ was slowly becoming the college student, the business woman, the pilot, the CEO… females have had to fight for our own opportunities for a long time.

My complete makeup is an anomaly when analyzing our history. I am a female who happens to be a college student and also happens to be a woman of color. With racial conversations and debates occurring between races here in America, it’s often that I find myself defending interracial relationships, biracial children, and in some cases, even my political stance. These conversations come along in group discussions, class lectures, and even within my own family. So much of the time, I find myself defending my racial composition to my family more than anyone else. I have to defend my choice of my music, what I do with my hair, how I dress, how I dance, and how I view the world simply because it is different from others on either side of my family.

Frankly, I am tired of having to defend who I am and where my family comes from to those who are ignorant and unopen to change and progress. I am tired of being the spokeswoman for black women in classrooms. I am tired of feeling like I can’t eat my chicken foot soup in public without feeling like it is gross or seeing someone’s face look at my food in disgust. I am tired of feeling the need to hide one of my races when among people who identify as the other because here is the truth; I am a black woman as much as I am a white woman. I like cheeseburgers and I like ox tail. I like pop music and I love my dancehall. I believe in inclusivity and I believe in God. None of these things matter. What matters, in my opinion, is acceptance and love. We are all the same color when it’s dark.

Regardless of the difficulties that come with being biracial, having the opportunity to experience different cultures is an amazing experience that has made me thankful and educated. Someone asked me once how I felt about being a mixed woman with an education. I told them I felt like it was my duty to achieve my dreams after all who came before me to fight for my dreams along with everyone else who would not have had these opportunities otherwise.

I leave this post with one of my favorite quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”  – MLKJ

-XO Cass

 

 

 

Frizzy, Messy and Beautiful

Whelp, after a long hiatus… I’m back! This summer has been super hectic and super draining. I have taken a step back and done some real thinking. Thinking about who I am, what I’m doing with my life, who’s in my life… everything. It all happened after me and Gio’s lives were threatened in the blink of an eye. After the accident, I’ve been seeing everything so differently.

 

We were coming back from an amazing weekend at my family’s lakehouse in Maine, I felt so fresh and relaxed. It was just what I needed before the hustle and bustle of school started again. I was sleeping in the passenger seat sleeping when I opened my eyes to the road looking like it was doing gymnastics. Everything was blurry; the crash was inevitable. I grabbed Gio’s arm and prepared myself for the impact as quickly as I could. I closed my eyes, and the rest is history.

 

 

Thanks to God, we were both okay after a few scrapes and bruises. When I think of the accident, I always think of what my purpose is. Why did God give me a second chance? Why did we both come out of such a horrible accident and be perfectly fine? What am I supposed to do here on Earth? I’m still not sure the answer, but I do know that it is my mission to find out.

Before the accident, and even now sometimes, I question what I’m doing in every aspect of my life. Who am I? I was beginning to feel like I was losing myself and the essence of everything I stood for. I was making stupid decisions, being irresponsible, and not following the morals and the ethics that I had always taken so seriously. I was ruthless with my attitude, using it to hurt others in ways that I didn’t mean to because I couldn’t even explain to myself what I was doing. I don’t like who I was becoming, and neither did many of the people around me. I lost a few friends, some of my family wanted nothing to do with me; it was just a big mess and it’s all because I let my ego get into my head.

I’ve come to the realization that you can love yourself without making others hate you. It took so long to get comfortable with myself, and when it finally happened, it was a frenzy of emotions and actions that were nothing anyone had ever seen from me before, even myself.

With school starting soon, I feel myself coming back. I am focused, and ready to kick ass in my senior year of college. That motivation and determination is coming back, that eagerness to succeed is back and I am happy. It’s not worth losing yourself trying to get validation from others who don’t even know who you really are. Social media is fun until you allow it to consume you. When you wake up in the morning, you don’t need to straighten your hair just because it looks better on Snapchat. You don’t have to get the extravagant meal just because you can’t post a basic hamburger and some fries on Instagram. Do not sugar coat something that is already sweet as can be honey, live your life chasing the dreams that you created, not what others want to see.

 

So many valuable lessons have been learned in such a short amount of time.

 

Life continues to throw curve balls, and the beauty of life still amazes me every single day. My curly hair is back, my real smile is back. I’m back.

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Teach Me A Lesson

June 2, 2017 |

I feel like I’m always inspired by newly released music. My baby boy Bryson finally released his second album and I couldn’t be happier.. it’s exactly what I was expecting and more. Of course it comes with the territory that I would be in my feelings the ENTIRE time I listened to it the first time, but the tracks spoke to me about who I am, what I have to offer the World, and what I deserve from it in return.

I finally realize that there is nothing wrong with me. Nothing wrong at all. I always thought nobody would want me and all the baggage that comes along with me, but all that ‘baggage’ is exactly what makes me the baddie that I am. Along with that, I realize that people trying to walk back into my life is what I should expect when they walk out without any rhyme and reason.

Bryson’s ‘Teach me a Lesson’ track is one of my favorites of the mixtape. In the track he says…

“You just left town

Yeah, you skated on me

Bounce, switch up locations on me

Can’t keep waiting on me

Made a mistake, baby

Now you’re tryna find a replacement for me, babe”

It’s so funny to me. I always thought I was the problem, everything was my fault. Everything bad that happened was because of me. I figured, hey, everyone is gonna leave. And then when it happened to me for real, it was validation. I thought that I had proven my theory that everyone would leave me only because he really did just that. He got up, he moved across the country. He started a new life and left me behind like all the other things he wanted to forget about.

I dealt with all that shit. I moved on, I stopped thinking about him. I met someone new. Right when I felt like I was able to continue my life without him, he started calling. Then randomly he decided to hit me with the whole “I just miss you sometimes” bullshit that I didn’t think would ever come out of his mouth.

Even though I didn’t think I would ever hear all that, I still wondered how I would react if I did ever hear it. I figured I’d be a mess… I’d open up and try and make things work and put my own feelings aside like I always had. But no! I had enough strength to completely ignore what he said and protect my own heart. The truth is, as much as I miss him, I don’t miss the amount of work I had to put into a relationship that was doomed from the beginning. I don’t miss forgetting that I was just as important as you were. I don’t owe anything to you & now that I realize it, there’s no way I’ll ever revert to my old ways. Even better, seeing you moving on so quickly makes me think… why? You needed validation from someone else? You need someone to distract you from realizing how royally you messed up?

It was easy enough for you to leave me, to forget about me, to hurt me… and as much as I want you to be happy, I hope you recognize the hurt you let me feel when all I wanted was to be with you.

I hope we taught ourselves a lesson worth remembering…

Coaster

May 4, 2017 |

Writing my last research paper for the year, a twenty-six page research paper on a topic that is not interesting in the slightest. It’s one paper keeping me from ending my junior year of college. I have not slept in close to three whole days; I’m exhausted. I’m smelly because I’ve been in the same spot all damn day. I haven’t even gotten up to pee. I’m getting a little bit delirious from staring at a computer screen more than the back of my eyelids, but I’m okay with that; my hard work’s gonna pay off eventually.

Here I am working my ass off and Spotify blessed my existence with a song that describes my feelings exactly. Khalid is one of the most dope up-and-coming artists in my opinion, and music like his, PnB Rock and Bryson Tiller (of course) are literally the only things on my playlist these days.

I heard Coaster for the first time tonight & it hit me; I did it. I AM doing it. I’m overcoming the obstacles that I thought would take me out of the game at one point not too long ago. The truth is, I was broken; the World didn’t seem the same anymore, I didn’t feel like myself anymore. I had never felt like that in my life and it really scared me. Looking back, I was mad at myself for letting people and situations break me entirely. I always pride myself on independence and the importance of developing self-worth in order to protect yourself from people who have the potential to hurt you. But I wasn’t who I thought I was… I was the exact opposite.

Setting my pride aside, I had to come to the realization that I wasn’t as tough as I thought. Once I accepted that, I had to build myself up again. It didn’t come easy and it was the darkest point for me, but I did it.. I’m here. I’m happy, I’m progressing. I’ve overcome EVERYTHING that I thought was going to break me.

So what did I do after this? I persevered. I continued to fight every day to get back to that place of self-love after I felt I was nothing and offered nothing to the person I loved, the World and even myself. It’s true that your first heartbreak is really one of the most difficult things ever, I know it made me question I had ever told to anybody. It made me question my value; was I really anything special? It made me hate myself, my body, my personality, my character, everything.

It’s been an upward clime, and I’ve finally had the opportunity to step back and worry about ME. Did I eat? Did I call my parents and tell them I love them? Did I have a good day at work? Did I have fun with my friends? It was about me, and this has been the best feeling. Self-validation is everything and has proven to me that what I wanted and what I thought I needed was exactly what was breaking me down slowly.

I’ve realized that no matter how much something or someone means to you, it’s okay to worry about yourself. It’s okay to love the person that broke you, it’s okay to worry about them. But don’t ever pity them or feel you owe them anything. The only person you owe anything to is yourself. Care for them, hope for the best for them. But do it from a distance; and I’m doing just that. I got hurt once, I love myself too much to ever let that happen again.

Time heals everything… time brings people back. It’s crazy what a random song on Spotify can evoke and inspire me to feel what needs to be felt in that very moment.

Coaster – Khalid
As time passes, I feel so low
Searchin’ for pieces, covering up the hole
I’ll fight for your love, I’ll fight for your soul
I’ll throw all of my cares away for you
I’ll be there to wait for you
Maybe you weren’t the one for me
But deep down I wanted you to be
I’ll still see you in my dreams
All the things that I did for you, just wasn’t it for you

So I’ll be coasting, roller-coasting
Through my emotion
I will be coasting, roller-coasting
I’m hoping that you’ll come back to me

Moving on seems harder to do
When the one that you love moves faster than you

I gave you my all, I showed the proof of your lies
And you weren’t worth it, you don’t deserve me
As time passes I’m feeling high
You’re not the one I’m thinking of tonight
I may not be over you, but I’ll try inside
I’m feeling better now, finally feeling special now, oh

Coasting, roller-coasting
In my emotions, oh
I’ll be coasting, roller-coasting
I noticed you weren’t the one for me

You weren’t the one for me
You weren’t the one for me
You weren’t the one for me
You weren’t the one for me
Weren’t the one for me
You weren’t the one
You weren’t the one for me
So don’t come back to me, no
No, don’t come back to me, no
No, don’t come back to me
No, don’t come back to me, no
No, don’t come back to me
You weren’t the one for me
You weren’t the one for me
You weren’t the one for me
You weren’t the one for me

Thankful

May 10, 2017 |

He’ll never understand how much he means to me, or how much he motivates me to push forward. He looks up to me, he watches my every move, how could I ever let him down? I can’t. He needs to witness a success story; to see someone live up to their potential. He needs to see where he can go and what he is capable of by seeing me do just that. When I fail or I break down, knowing he’s looking up to me picks me right back up. I owe it to him to show him that his future can be bright, it just takes determination, commitment and drive.

3/4

May 5, 2017 |

 

I am so happy. Truly happy. Nobody could bring me this kind of joy except for the good Lord above. Although it’s nothing but commotion around me, I can’t remember a time where I was this comfortable with where my life was going. I have so much to look forward to, and it hit me recently that one of my biggest dreams is so close to becoming a reality.

Being a child of an immigrant is a lot of pressure. There are a lot of expectations and college was always their ultimate goal for me. I promised my dad at only five years old that I would make this dream come true for him; and so far, I’ve done just that. I kicked ass in school, despite all the trauma I had to endure. I was a three season athlete, I was the lead trombone in my high school band (lame af, I know), and I still managed to do my best. By doing my best, I was accepted into all the colleges I applied to, and was able to attend a private university on an amazing academic scholarship.

I did it on my own. All of it. I didn’t have anyone to sit down with me and do my homework when I got home. I did it. I’ve continued to do it on my own, and I do a damn good job. But here we are, my junior year of college. I’m a double major in math and education with a minor in psychology. I am SO CLOSE to finishing my undergrad. I am so excited. Not for me, but for THEM. For my parents, for all of my family, for my baby brother. I am so close and I cannot wait to walk and shake Pres. Leblanc’s hand. Lord knows I am going to cry like a little bitch. But in only one year, I’ll do it for everyone that sacrificed their education for my own. For my Dad, who has worked two jobs for the last twelve years from 6 AM – 10 PM  EVERY SINGLE DAY. Or my mom, who sacrificed EVERYTHING for me.

I am thankful. I am grateful. I am excited to see where the future takes me. After this goal, it’s time for the ultimate goal: get married, buy a house, have some gorgeous mixed babies and live an amazing life. That’s the dream. Only 1/4 left!

Motivation

April 28, 2017 |

Perseverance. Dedication. Commitment. Sounds easy, right? Of course it does. The World pulls us in 1,000,000 different directions; there’s no such thing as consistency in a World where millions of kids are still going to bed hungry… even in one of the richest lands on Earth. There is no such thing as reliability in a Higher power when innocent people are dying every single day.

The truth is that nothing is certain. Nothing can ever be promised. But you know what has the capability of being certain? Self-discovery. Self-investment. Self-worth. Self-love.

It’s a cruel world; what can you do to ensure your happiness? First, understand what you can do as an individual to inflict, promote and ultimately force change. Be educated, be prepared, be confident in all the quirkiness that is you. The ability to reflect & remain focused will then force you to persevere. To remain dedicated. To be committed. The rest will work itself out.

Stop making time for people who can’t even respond to your text. Stop forcing yourself to move on before you have time to feel the pain. Stop thinking that everything and everybody is out to get you. Stop thinking about people who could care less if you’re still breathing. Stop worrying about what people think. Stop hating. Stop crying. At the beginning of every day, you are given a certain amount of energy. Don’t you dare allow your energy to be wasted on something that is so small and minute in the grand scheme of things.

 

Shitty things happen to good people, bad things happen to bad people. BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO EVERYONE. It’s how we decide to move forward and grow… so stop. Stop feeling bad for yourself and wake up to the idea that you are in control. Don’t let anyone step on you. Don’t let anyone think that you are less than extraordinary; including yourself.

Compassion

April 11, 2017 |

I wish I could say that I’ve forgotten all about you. I have felt so free and so liberated lately, like I can conquer the world. I have real relationships with my friends now; I have fun with them and I no longer feel guilty about that. I do what I want when I want without the fear of judgement of criticism that I always felt. I wear what I want, I do whatever I want to do with my hair. I’m my own person. People look at me now and they see how I’ve changed since you left. I’m happier. I’m not restricted. I am able to be who I want to be and it is the most amazing feeling. No longer am I accused of doing what I wasn’t doing, no longer do I feel like I was lucky to be with you. You made me feel like I would never find anybody better than you because I was nothing special. Joke was on you, because I am an amazing, beautiful, young female who has so many goals and dreams. Yeah I’ve moved on, but you still cross my mind from time to time. No, I don’t want you, no I don’t need you, but thinking about what you could possibly be doing in the world right now scares me…

The truth is, no matter how much I hate you for what you did, I worry about you every damn day. All the time. I guess that’s what happens when you give your all to a military relationship. You and I both know that I never fully accepted you joining the military not because I didn’t accept your dreams, but because I didn’t want to let you go and move into danger. Call me selfish, call me whatever you want (and I’m sure you do), but I truly wanted my life to be with you and that was all questioned the day you left me for Basic. Watching the news lately about the bombings in Syria, I wasn’t thinking about the people who were killed or the children who were screaming for mercy. No. The first thing I thought about and saw in my mind was YOU. I hate you even more for making me like this; thinking of you before having compassion for people who are innocent and pure. How is that ever okay? It’s not, and when I think about our dynamic, it makes sense to me. It was always about you first, you had to be comfortable and approve of everything and anything. I don’t have any idea where on the planet you are, if you’re scared, if you’re hurt, if you’re in real danger… I have no clue, but it doesn’t matter because at the end of the day my number is still blocked and so isn’t yours.

Regardless, I continue to learn more and more about myself from our relationship. Yes, I have moved on, yes I pray for you every day. We weren’t able to have the type of friendship that I thought we had while we were together and that’s really unfortunate, but no matter what, no matter how much I hate you for your actions and lack of compassion, I care. I care for your well-being, your safety… your life. That won’t ever change. Love don’t change.